It was after 2am when I closed the laptop.
Thirty seconds before, I'd been looking at the best dashboard my business had ever produced. Revenue up 23%. Customer satisfaction above 87%. The treasury account had just gone into six figures.
The kitchen was dark. My three children had been asleep for hours. My wife was upstairs, not asleep. Just quiet. The kind of quiet you get from someone who has stopped mentioning the dinners you missed.
I wanted to tell her about the quarter.
She wasn't available. And I knew exactly why.
Green outside, red inside
Operations people have a name for metrics like mine. A watermelon. Green on the outside, red on the inside.
Every number I tracked was healthy. My back ached from the chair. The dentist appointment I'd already moved twice was about to move again. None of that was on the dashboard, because nobody runs a P&L on the inside.
But there is a second ledger. It records what the business takes from the person who built it: sleep, energy, the people upstairs, the person you were before you started. No line items. Nobody reviews it.
I call it the owner's tax.
A sacrifice is chosen. A tax is charged.
Here's the part most owners get wrong. This tax doesn't scale with failure. It scales with success.
More revenue brings more complexity. More clients, more demands. More team, more people who need your decision, your attention, your evening. Growth, the thing the business exists to produce, is the very mechanism that charges you.
A struggling business sends you a bill you can read. A growing one sends a bill nobody itemises.
Run the other ledger
Take last quarter's numbers, the ones you're proud of. Next to them, write three more:
How many evenings you worked.
The last time you did the thing you used to do for yourself.
The conversation at home you keep postponing.
Then ask whether those moved in the same direction as revenue.
If your numbers have never looked better and you can't remember your last evening off, you're not being rewarded for the growth.
You're being invoiced for it.
Steve
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